Many people know that Andrea and I work together 99.9% of the time. However on the day of weddings most people are surprised to hear that we're married unless they already know us. And the number 1 thing we hear every single time is...
"I DON'T KNOW HOW YOU GUYS DO IT, HOW CAN YOU WORK TOGETHER WITHOUT KILLING EACH OTHER!?!?!? I WOULD NEVER BE ABLE TO WORK WITH MY SPOUSE...!"
Well actually in my opinion you can. Maybe it's because we really have been doing this for quite some time now and we've gotten used to it already but the most important thing is that the both of you are on the same page. Like a marriage, a business is no different.
Having goals, delegating tasks, and most importantly communicating about every single thing is key. If you are in a career that allows you to work with your significant other then just imagine the potential of 2 people working hard towards a goal. In my eyes it's double the power, double the energy, and we should be able to handle more.
BUT YOU BOTH NEED TO BE READY TO SUPPORT EACH OTHER NO MATTER WHAT
Now this doesn't just happen overnight. If you and your spouse are in sync right off the bat, then you're one lucky couple. For us it took a few years before we were both on the same page. Not only we we both working separate day jobs but my passion was ultimately photography and Andrea's passion was ultimately makeup.
But what made us partner up in our business? Personally I think it was the fact that we both wanted to support each other and we both wanted the freedom to become entrepreneurs.
So we tried to make it work in the beginning. Of course we would bump heads all the time... Sh**t we still bump heads sometimes. I'll admit I needed to work on my teaching and patience skills and according to Andrea she needed to work on her "Accepting criticism and using it to make myself better at what I was doing." We had numerous arguments and conversations about how and what we needed to do in order for our business partnership to work. And the conversation always ended like this...
"If you're not willing to give it your all then we each go back to doing our jobs and that's it"
But we loved what we did so much, we love the freedom it could potentially give us, we both have a common love for the people we work with, we're both passionate about what we do and our goals are on the same page.
This is where I really have to give Andrea most of the credit. When she really picked up her speed on learning photography, understanding everything about it and really pushing herself personally and creatively. And this is where I learned to be patient, to teach her without breaking during the moments that were difficult and to allow the makeup and photography to work together.
My point here is that we each had to push ourselves out of our comfort zones yet support each other for the bigger picture. We had to constantly communicate and recognize the good things we were doing. We had to give each other the ownership, the authority and the credit we deserve and most importantly always trust one another. Personally we both agree it not only will bring you closer but if you're willing to give each other that support you need we bet it'll be one of the most rewarding experiences!!